There is something here I must forgive.


A course in Miracles states, “You are never angry for the reason you think.” This implies that there is an underlying reason for our anger. If we extend this theory to any negative emotion — fear, shame, guilt, betrayal, rejection, disappointment—the same principles applies: we are never upset for the reason we think we are; there is always something else going on.

Challenging experiences in life will always trigger our old stuff. That stuff will show up as more confusion, greater difficulty, more pain. In the midst o our challenges, we must take a moment to ask, “What am I really feeling?” An honest inquiry will undoubtedly produce, “I’m not good enough, smart enough, good-looking enough,” which all boils down to “I’m not enough.” If this personal lie is the core of our challenge, ask yourself, “When was the first time I heard this? Who said this to me?” When you identify the person, forgive him or her. You must forgive that person for crippling your self-concept, self-image, self-value. After you forgive that person or those people, forgive yourself for believing them.

Forgiveness heals old wounds Forgiveness removes us from the shadows of the past. Forgiveness helps us to understand where we are, how we got there, how to shut the door and not return.

Iyanla Vazant

Faith in the Valley




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