I soooooo want to have sex with him!

God’s morning turtles, I’m sorry for the shocking headline but NOW that I have your attention please take a moment to read the following important message.

Today, I have a true story for you, at the end of this story I pray you make the right decision on how you conduct yourselves sexually (and otherwise).

SHENEL has a man, DERECK, and she’s having unprotected sex because that’s her man. He has an outside woman, PATSY, and he is having unprotected sex with her because that’s the only person other than SHENEL he is having sex with, so he tells himself he is safe because its only two women…/:)

PATSY has her man, JOHN, and she’s having unprotected sex with him because that’s her man. She tells herself she is safe because she only has two men, DERECK and JOHN…..
But JOHN has an outside woman named MICHELLE, and is having unprotected sex with her because to him PATSY is faithful so he tells himself its only two women he is having sex with so it cant hurt him. But MICHELLE has no personal man, just friends who when she wants to have sex she places  booty calls …X_X
Do you see where this going??? Everyone thinks that they are safe when in fact they are so unsafe its a shame AND very scary. If you’re feeling me on this, Join The Fight Against HIV/AIDS Virus by sharing this important message. Thank you turtles
I love you all,

Fly high.

If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it’s your, if it

doesn’t it never was.




Are you a user?

Today, Saturday July 17th, I updated my Facebook status to Knycky Cordner  “says we need to learn to love people and use things, instead of using people and loving things” My BB started going off with comments, and it got me thinking: Are there so many people out there that were at some point in their lives victims to a “user”, still being used? And if so, what does that say about us as humans, how low can we go, AND how long will we allow ourselves to be used?

After a while, I asked a question following my post “does practice still make perfect (sense)? To me, it’s all so simple. All my life I have treated others the way I want to be treated. My motives have never been (and will never be) to use or hurt anyone. I may have wronged some in passing, but that would have not been intentional, my apologies. Maybe that has to do with my upbringing. Also, I genuinely like people and try to do good by them, try to make others happy. Or maybe I’m lost in fool’s paradise. That last maybe came from the fact that although I give respect. I share, I motivate and try to support to the best of my ability, I still encounter people that don’t give  “ish” about you and your good intentions, they just want to use. AND IT STILL SURPRISES ME.

When I give, be it my time, financial or emotional support, gifts, WHATEVER! I don’t do it thinking of the returns. I don’t think giving should be some sort of investment. But I’m no fool either. I refuse to be taken for granted. “De damn longest rope have ah end eh!” Yep, that’s usually my pep talk to self when I realize I’m being taken for a ride. I leave the situation alone (sometimes after letting you know you’ve been caught) and I move on. Without shame or regret.

In personal relationships, the work place, even in Church! There are always  people lurking, waiting to pounce on others to accomplish their dirty deed. To take whatever dey could geh! And sometimes we make it oh so easy for them. Could it be generosity, kindness, naivete, stupidity, acts of self loath? (yes some people like the punishment of being used) Whatever the motivating force, there comes a time when we have to realize that we are being used AND IT’S JUST NOT RIGHT! Plain talk bad manners.

Like I said to Travis Christian, one of my Facebook pals, some people enter our lives for a reason and or a season. It may not always be the type of relationship we hoped for, but we can ALWAYS LEARN from it. And according to Mummy, doing the same thing over and over the same way and expecting a different result is a sign of madness. I only act mad (at times when the happy bug hits), but I’m not certified…yet. *giggles*

I know of couples that have an unwritten agreement to be used (or abused). Before you shout, “KNYCKY DAIZ ISH!” LET. ME. FINISH! And all I need to do is give some examples. How many marriages do you know of that are based on exchange? Successful man meets beautiful woman. Thinks he needs the eye Candy on his arm. Proposes. Beautiful woman not too into  the successful man but AGREES to marry him for financial stability. Maybe not as often as before because we ladies BRUKKING DE GLASS CEILING, but it has happened. Does happen.

In the work place, you’re paid for the use of your mind and or physical labor aren’t you? That’s an agreement of acceptable use. LOL. When we listen to our friends moan for daysssss on end after a break-up, we hope for a shoulder in return if (God forbid) we ever end up in the same predicament. And NO, I’m not contradicting myself. I  don’t listen just because I want the same courtesy. But as real friendship goes, there is give and there is take. Situations like these are forms of  acceptable use as well. Or maybe I’m just using incorrect terminology.

There are several reasons I think people use others, some are:

Because they can.

Because they’re insecure and uncomfortable with themselves. (To APPEAR strong)

Financial (material) gains.

Physical pleasure (re: sex).

Greed, selfishness. And the list goes on and on.

Users are and will be around as long as there are usees (my word, permission granted to use). Don’t think for one moment that by “handing over” to a user they’ll one day see how nice a person you are to them and finally change their ways. My advice to you if you’re in a situation like this is YOU…change YOUR WAY of action, acting. OR, you’ll only end up, depressed, beaten, and drained (financially as well). Remember Eleanor Roosevelt and many others in different ways said “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Dey cah doeet if yuh doh leh dem!!!

The following is my facebook post and some comments.

  • Knycky Cordner says we need to learn to love people and use things, instead of using people and loving things

Annette CordnerMichelle HypoliteHaydon Fortuni and 21 others like this.

Candace Eastmond for real

Zerah Francois Amen 2 dat!

AtoHisbigness WillIams real wisdom..!!!

Knycky Cordner Does practice still make perfect(sense)?
Travis Christian Love that line@status
Knycky Cordner Thanks Travis. Hope to start us thinking more about our actions, how it affects others, and what it says about us.

It actually led to me blogging some more of my thoughts. Will post the link when I’m done (may take a while as I’m cleaning as I write-*smiles)
Travis Christian Well i try…actually i try to help ppl too much and very often forget about myself…lol, but thats the way the life goes sometimes……… oh and happy cleaning….

Knycky Cordner p.s the rain flies not helping much. Yuck, they’re so creepy crawly, don’t like ’em.
Travis Christian lol, they doing their part in frustrating everybody today, after all dat rain.

Knycky Cordner Doh leh dem change yuh Travis! However, we must be cognizant of who and how we help. You may find this funny but I actually pray about it. Yuh know de saying once bitten twice….But I don’t want others that may genuinely need support to not get it (if I can help) because of a past “user” experience. I strongly believe “users” GETS IT IN THE END! (Payback is a BEACH-lol) OR they come into realization on their own (usually too late!) *shrugs shoulders* Wha you think?

Knycky Cordner‎…and Travis is GOD, self and all after OK! *smiles*
Travis Christian When someone does wrong or wrongs me, i usuallly don’t say anything, i stay quiet, hoping that 1 day they’ll realize. But at the same time, there are some wrongs that must be addressed immediately, because i’m a friend and i care and not jus tryin to bring you down.
Knycky Cordner Travis I concur!
Travis Christian Thank you, but in the end i jus often lose friends, or ppl that were’nt important anyway.
Knycky Cordner ‎…and they were on in your life for a reason and or season. Just learn form it and >>>MOVE ON!
Travis Christian yeah, i know, i usually do. Somehow it’s actually easier for me to “LOCK OFF” ppl than meet ppl. lol
Knycky Cordner Guys I hope you don’t mind if I use your comments in my blog. Just being nice though cause it’s MY PAGE and *whispers* ah doh need allyuh permission*
lol Only teasing…
Blessings and mircles Guys!

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